The Foundation
Before we do any work together, you should know what you can count on from me. These principles are the ground everything else is built on, and they don't change, no matter what you tell me.
There is nothing wrong with you, full stop. You are not broken or flawed and you don't need to be fixed. You are not too much, and you are not inadequate.
Whatever you're doing that you don't like, the snapping, the shutting down, the going quiet, the giving yourself away, the eating when you're scared, the staying when something in you wants to leave, all of it makes sense. Every one of those things started as a way to keep yourself safe or to get your needs met.
Your brain created those strategies to protect you. At some point they worked, but they may not be working now, and they were never proof that something was wrong with you. They're proof that you've been trying to survive.
Your worth is not in question here. It isn't something you earn by doing the work, and it isn't something you can lose by getting it wrong. It was never in question, and it never will be.
No matter what you've done, even the thing you swore you'd never say out loud to anyone, none of it changes what I've told you. You are still just as lovable as you ever were, and that has never been conditional and it never will be.
Everything we do together, every hard feeling we sit with and every honest conversation we have, comes back to this one thing.
You always deserve more love not less.
