Reading & Reflection
Articles for women trying to figure out what's going on in their relationship, and in themselves. No formulas and no five-step plans. Just what I've seen work.
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There's a real cost to loving someone who will never be what you need him to be. It's not the years you've spent waiting. It's the parts of yourself you've had to leave behind.
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You keep hoping and praying for the moment when they finally see the light. That moment's probably not coming. Here's what's really happening inside the person you keep waiting on and what to do instead.
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Why don't you just leave? Friends ask. You ask yourself. The cycle of abuse and trauma bonding explain what's keeping you stuck and what to do about it.
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You call it keeping the peace. But every time you hide what you feel, the relationship gets built on a version of you that doesn't exist. Here's how to find your way back.
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If you keep giving and giving and ending up exhausted and resentful, the problem isn't that you're too kind. There's something underneath. Here's what's really going on.
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You may think you have an anger problem, an anxiety problem, or a depression problem. What's really happening is that your brain is organizing your emotions for protection and you end up living in the ones on top instead of feeling what lies underneath.
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The one thing that predicts a relationship's end with over 90% accuracy (according to John Gottman's research). It's not what most people think. Here's what to watch for.
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This isn't a feel-good list. It's a working document: concrete practices drawn from therapists, coaches, recovery communities, and researchers. Pick what resonates. Start where you are.
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These are the core principles I come back to with every client. They're not theory.
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